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Single-Parent Family Ministry is nothing more than walking alongside people like: Sam (who is widowed), Peter (who is divorced), Frank (who is separated) and Mary (who is never married). Building relationships with single parents and speaking into their lives with compassion is all that is required to do SPFM.

 

WE CAN HELP YOU HELP SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES!

 

The Center for Single-Parent Family Ministry exists to inform you, equip you and connect you with other leaders. This means that we are committed to providing you with the information, equipment and connection that you need to be successful in your local ministry with single-parent and step families.

 

Call us at 1-888-543-7467 or e-mail us today!

She attends your church. She has 3 kids and her husband used to call her Sammy.

 

It was raining on that cold November evening when the phone rang. It was the State Trooper calling to relay the news. Sam’s husband had been involved in a fatal automobile accident on the Freeway on his way home from work. Samantha asked in shock, “Is he OK? Is he alright?” The voice on the other end of the telephone responded, “NO, He’s gone, He’s dead.”

 

Sam screamed and dropped the phone as she fell to the floor. Her children came running to see what the matter was. “Your father is not coming home tonight,” she said softly.

 

It has been 18 months since that cruel fall night, and there are days that are better than others. Samantha still is in shock on those bad days and can’t believe he is gone. Her 3 children are all dealing with the loss of their daddy in different ways – denial for one, anger for another, and sadness for the youngest.

 

The church is unsure really what to do. Sam stopped going to her Adult Sunday School Class because it is made up of mostly married couples. There is an unspoken value on both sides that says she just doesn’t fit in anymore. Sam knows she is not married, but doesn’t think the singles group is the place either. She is lost and knows not where to go. The church is the hope of the world and something must be done to walk alongside Samantha in her sadness, in her grief, in her new life.

 

WE CAN HELP YOU HELP SAM AND HER KIDS!

 

The Center for SPFM (Single-Parent Family Ministry) exists to inform, equip and connect leaders. We can help you help Sam and her children.

 

Call us at 1-888-543-7467 or e-mail us today!

Do you know SAM?

He attends your church. He has a son who just turned 3 years old.

 

It has been 7 months since the divorce was finalized. Peter is experiencing not only physical pain (because his little boy is pulling his hair), but he is feeling the emotional pain of his divorce. Although his relationship with his wife has ended, Peter is striving to stay in the game of being a “good dad.”

 

Peter was able to negotiate a joint custody arrangement during the court battle. He has made a commitment and is making sacrifices to put his relationship with his son first. Peter still has days of anger and weeks of depression, but knows it will take some time to grieve the losses in his life.

 

His church has been helpful and has provided a divorce recovery group for him to attend, but he still feels like an outcast when he tries to fit in with “whole” families. Peter has internalized the identity of the “broken” family and it will take some time for this inappropriate label to wear off.

 

Peter needs some people to walk alongside him and communicate the message that “wholeness” is found in Christ, not in marriage. Peter needs to hear that although he might be experiencing brokenness, he can also experience wholeness in his relationship with his Creator.

 

WE CAN HELP YOU HELP PETER AND HIS SON!

 

The Center for SPFM (Single-Parent Family Ministry) exists to inform, equip and connect leaders. We can help you help Sam and her children.

 

Call us at 1-888-543-7467 or e-mail us today!

Do you know PETER?

He attends your church. He has a son who is in the 8th grade. Frank recently became separated from his wife of 15 years.

 

The friction started out as mild conflict over Frank’s new-found faith in Christ. When their son started to attend the youth group at church, the distance in the relationship between Frank and his wife became great. They tried to work through the conflict, but his wife wanted nothing to do with the church and she moved out of the house.

 

The pain can be seen on everyone’s face. Frank wants to reconcile with his wife, and desires for her to experience the joy that can be found in giving your life to Christ. Frank’s son is confused and feels caught in the middle. He knows that there is more to his parents’ conflict than just the spiritual issue. There are days that he thinks the separation was his fault.

 

Frank is in limbo. He does not feel comfortable in the Singles Group at church because he is married, yet he feels embarrassed and ashamed to attend the Married Group because he is without a spouse.

 

The church does not know what to tell Frank. If he attends the Divorce Recovery Program, they will be giving Frank the message that he is single. If they tell him to come back after his divorce is finalized, they will be giving him the message that they just don’t care.

 

His church needs to give Frank some answers. Someone needs to walk alongside Frank and his son with compassion and wisdom. Hope must be given to this hurting family.

 

WE CAN HELP YOU HELP FRANK AND HIS SON!

 

The Center for SPFM (Single-Parent Family Ministry) exists to inform, equip and connect leaders. We can help you help Sam and her children.

 

Call us at 1-888-543-7467 or e-mail us today!

Do you know FRANK?

She attends your church. She has a son who is 10 years old. Mary is never married.

 

Before she came to know the Lord, Mary was living with her boyfriend and became pregnant. He wanted her to get an abortion, but Mary wanted to parent their child. This courageous decision led to their break-up. Mary gave birth to her baby boy alone. She had no support from her friends, her family or the father of her child. Her son has never met his father.

 

There are days that are hard for both Mary and her son. Trying to be both a mom and a dad to an active son is difficult. Parenting alone is not easy. She longs for companionship and for someone to love her. Her son longs to have a dad to play catch with, go to baseball games and take him camping.

 

Recently, some of Mary’s friends at work invited her to come to church. Mary made a commitment to Christ and she has enjoyed her new community of caring people. Mary is letting the mistakes in her past build character into her life and she is now learning how to live according to God's design. There are many who look at her as an adult with a son without prejudice. There are others however, that see her as an unmarried woman who had a child “out of wedlock.” The stigma of the never-married single mom is very strong.

 

The church does not really know what to do with Mary. They can’t put her in the Divorce Recovery Program because she is not divorced (she was never even married). The Marriage and Family Ministry is not a good fit because (she is not married). The bottom line is the fear that if we really accept Mary, then we will be accepting the behavior of immorality. The church is afraid to “love the sinner and hate the sin.”

 

WE CAN HELP YOU HELP MARY AND HER SON!

 

The Center for SPFM (Single-Parent Family Ministry) exists to inform, equip and connect leaders. We can help you help Sam and her children.

 

Call us at 1-888-543-7467 or e-mail us today!

Do you know MARY?

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